Independent Doesn’t Mean Alone
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At one of the first small business networking events I ever attended, the group leader made a point that has stuck with me to this day: No matter what you’re working on in your business, you don’t have to learn everything the hard way.
Whether it’s a marketing approach, an administrative system, or something specific to the services you offer, someone else has already been there.
One of the reasons many of us start our own businesses is that we like working independently. I know that’s certainly true for me. But being independent doesn’t mean we have to figure everything out on our own.
When we rely only on trial and error, we often slow ourselves down while we “get it all sorted out” – if we get there at all. Sometimes we make mistakes that delay progress. Sometimes we make mistakes that quietly derail our goals altogether. And often, those mistakes could have been avoided if we hadn’t been too busy, too proud, too embarrassed, or too convinced we should already know the answer to ask someone else.
And no, this isn’t about hiring a business coach (although coaching can be a great investment, especially when you need support in multiple areas). What I’m talking about is something far more accessible.
The world is full of small business owners, and somewhere out there is someone who has already faced the exact challenge you’re dealing with right now. In most cases, people are more than willing to share what they’ve learned, once you ask.
Who you ask will depend on the situation. Sometimes it helps to speak with someone in your industry. Other times, you just need someone who has navigated a similar business problem. That might be a colleague in a professional association, a trusted contact from a networking group, or a peer community where real conversations happen.
That’s exactly why POPS Circle (Productivity & Organizing Peer Support) exists.
POPS Circle brings together business owners who value shared experience, honest conversation, and practical support. It’s a space where you can talk through challenges, learn what’s worked for others, and shortcut your learning curve, without having to figure everything out the hard way.
As Jack Canfield puts it:
People who ask confidently get more than those who are hesitant and uncertain. When you’ve figured out what you want to ask for, do it with certainty, boldness, and confidence.
The next time you find yourself stuck, spinning your wheels, or wondering if there’s a better way, remember this: someone else has already done it.
Ask for the help you need. And if you’d like to do that in a supportive, peer-based environment, I’d love to see you at the next POPS Circle meeting.
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It has been my experience that a person of knowledge, wants to share that knowledge and be recognized for that knowledge. Each time in my career when I needed help, I asked for it. I have approached many business owners, clients as well as friends, family and yes even competitors, who may have the information that I need, saying “I was wondering if you could help me. I respect you opinion and I value your expertise. (This must be sincere). There has been very few times when I have been put off or turned down. Successful people are successful because they know that by sharing and giving, helping others grow, we receive many benefits that can not be calculated and … many referrals that can!
Maggie, thanks so much for your words of wisdom, today and always. You have always been so generous with your knowledge and an inspiration to many.
This is very true! In fact this is the bulk of how I have learned everything I know about social media and blogging. There are endless free classes, webinars, lectures, articles, videos and more. I’ll be I have a few hundred on my To Read list I haven’t even gotten to yet. The information is out there you just have to ask or do the work and look for it. 🙂
You make a great point, that there’s a lot of information out there to be found. I certainly don’t advocate that you rely strictly on asking others instead of doing your own research, but sometimes just sifting through all those resources can be overwhelming, so even asking for recommendations as to which are worthwhile can save you a lot of time, energy, and even money.
Thank you for your post Janet! Those are wonderful words of wisdom. This is something I used to struggle with in the past but realized its so much easier, quicker, and less painful just to ask! A lot of times people are flattered when you ask for their expertise; it is very rarely the case that someone would actually say no.
Even if they say no, you’ve lost nothing. Depending on what you’re asking, some people may expect to be paid for their knowledge – see http://careerprocanada.ca/cant-pick-brain-free – but if you consider the value of the time you’ll save and the information you’ll receive, it may well be worth it!
I’m starting on my third year in business and ask A LOT of questions. Thanks for the validation, Janet!
Good for you, Sarah! It took me a long time to realize that seeking help – from asking a simple question to partnering with someone on a large project – is so important!
I am a firm believer in not reinventing the wheel. So much of what we do in business and in our personal lives has been done by other people who are more than willing to share their ideas and expertise. That is one of the things I love about my experiences in the organizing industry. Everyone is so willing to share and support each other. I am thankful that I am now at a point in my career that I can now pass my knowledge along to others as well. Thanks, Janet!
Reaching that point happens so gradually that we don’t even see it coming, but it feels great, doesn’t it?
I’ve also noticed that most organizers are very supportive of one another, which is fabulous.
I’m a total believer in asking people who have more experience than I do. I think it seems efficient. I know others who resist, feeling it is somehow “cheating,” and then I know some introverts who would just rather Google everything and try to figure it out. I enjoy gleaning wisdom from anyone who will share. A great post, Janet!
At one stage, I thought that if someone helped me, it was no longer *my* project. I’m glad I got past it!
I totally agree, I know I reached out to you Janet, for some advice when I started, that has served me very well. My Mother always told me, if you ask someone for advice, it makes them feel good, that what they know is important enough to share.
That’s right, you did – and yes, it made me feel good (Mothers are usually right)!
“When we learn by trial and error, we often end up delaying our success until we get everything figured out – if we’re lucky.”
This is so true. Learning how to use a new tool or coming up with new systems can take us down a rabbit hole. It can be costly in terms of time spent and frustration that might erupt … when it might have just been easier to get help from someone who’s “been there, done that.”
That’s what I like about SOHO Tech Training – it’s a great program for learning about different tech tools without everyone having to invest time to discover and test them individually!
Thanks for the stamp of approval, Janet! =)